Dating has always
been an interesting subject to me. There are so many dating shows about finding
“love,” like Tough Love, Millionaire Match Maker, Why am I still Single, etc
(love is in prentices
because people have different views on what love is,
which is a whole other blog). If I’m not hearing about it on television, books,
or on radio shows; I have enough guy/girl friends and co-workers talking about
their dating ups and downs to last me for a while. One subject I hear very
little on is the rules of dating. Now the above shows do go over their own
particular rules, but everyone’s isn’t the same. Keep in mind I’m talking about
actual dating or as the old school calls it “courting,” (not a relationship or
anything extra).
Another term (we
the younger generation seems to use) instead of dating is “talking to someone.”
Now yes, you can be conversing with someone on a friendly level, but when I
type “talking,” I’m referring to conversing in a since of liking each other
and going out together or arriving at that point next. One of many things I’ve
noticed from conversing with different people is that sometimes the female
maybe dating a guy and while doing so she thinks they have progressed into a
relationship or it should be at that point. However, in the guy’s mind she is
one of the many girls he is just…dating or “talking to...” and that my dear can
sometimes lead into trouble especially if he or she is treated as if it’s a
relationship…there just isn’t a title.
So think about the
above statement I made. The woman (in some cases the man) thinking they are the
only person being dated although they are not in an official relationship.
Should you tell them they aren’t the only person you date? Do you really owe
them that or should that be an understood situation? Would you want to know?
Well apparently it isn’t an understood situation to everyone. What made me type
this article was a particular experience I had.
Long story short,
I was talking to two great guys that in my opinion had really good boyfriend
material. I just assumed that I wasn’t the only lady they were dating. We were
not in a relationship and it was still the “I’m getting to know you stage”, so
I figured a relationship wasn’t on the menu that early anyway. As a little time
went on I became concern since I could tell both really liked me and I liked
them too (yikes, one of them had to go). As a result, I talked with each guy about
me still talking to and willing to date other guys since I wasn’t in an
official relationship. Shockley, I was the only lady (they both claim) they
were talking to at the time and both wanted to be the only guy I was talking
to, even though it wasn’t an official relationship.
Well
that situation was handled peacefully, but it made me think. How do other
people handle situations like this? I’ve heard the phrase “putting all of your
eggs in one basket,”and I think that would count in a dating situation. I
decided to interview different genders and age groups to see how they viewed
putting all of their eggs in one basket and their views of dating in general.
Stay tuned for part 2 to read the interviews and summary of my research study.
Be Fierce, Be Fine, Better You…WhyKnot?!
V. Curls
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