Eggs aren’t Cheap You Know?! (part 2)
This part of the article starts the
interview section and a few of the example questions. A few questions were
altered depending on the person’s unique situation:
1.) “If and when you were dating, how did you feel about dating multiple
people and would/did you tell all of the people were dating others?”
2.) Would you want the people you’re dating to tell you?
3.) What is the point in dating multiple people (as long as you’re not in a
relationship)?
*Their replies were
compressed into paragraph form according to how they answered.
Male, age: 22, Status:
in a relationship
“I would date others and I would tell them because I wouldn’t
want secrets.” If it was the other way around (her dating multiple men) I would
want her to tell me, but she doesn’t have to. Even if we were getting serious
(as in liking each other enough to turn it into a real relationship) I would be
okay with her dating others because I’m not insecure. If she chose another man
she was dating instead of me I would be disappointed, but not mad. I wouldn’t
put all of my eggs in one basket. If one of the girls and I entered into a
relationship I would still talk to the other girls as friends only.
At this point I asked
him, “wouldn’t talking to the other girls as friends be temptation to cheat?”
His reply: No, you have to trust each other or not be
together. Besides, women are sneaky. They will only tell you half of the story.
Men tell women everything because women get over things better than men.
Female, age: 22, Single
“I believe in dating multiple guys if I’m just testing
waters, but I wouldn’t tell the other guys unless I felt it was getting
serious. I would want him to tell me if we were getting serious, but if we are
casually dating I would not want to know. The point of dating multiple people
is to test waters because you never know who you may or may not like. It all
depends on your definition of dating. Courting is getting to know someone, in
society now it almost seems like dating is sometimes based on sex, but getting
to know someone is foreign. I absolutely do not believe sex should be with
dating, but for marriage. You have to renew your mind in The Word (Bible) to
fight against what the flesh desires.” I do believe Christians should date though
( just without sex).
Do you believe there is
a specific person for you?
I believe we have choices and we should pray to God. He
probably has set aside someone who matches up better with what we want, but
it’s important to pray because people can be deceived.
Male, age: 33, Married
“If you like each other you shouldn’t be talking to anyone
else. You should know by talking if it will grow into anything more. I am okay
with her talking to other men, but I would want her to tell me that she is
exploring other options. I would tell her. I took a chance on love (he only
dated the woman he is now married to). No one else was on her level at the
time.
What if there were
other women on her level, would you have dated them?
I would have kept dating the lady I started with…(looked a
little confused). I would have to ask God because that is too hard.
Female, age: 32,
relationship
“I agree with dating multiple people because when you’re
dating it’s not a relationship, there isn’t a full commitment. Dating is to figure
out what you want like being in a candy store. You do not know what you want if
your with one person. Males do not see it as a big deal, at the end of the day.
I do not cancel out options, but once you have an official title begins there
are rules.
Yes, I would tell a guy if I was dating (courting) other men
because I would want to be honest. I wouldn’t want someone to feel they are the
only one if they aren’t. I wouldn’t want to tell them because you take a chance
of losing someone, but I would. A person may need to set rules in dating too
(according to that couple).
If he was dating multiple people I would want him to tell me.
Women are emotional beings so we need to know so that we will know how to
react.
Stay tuned for part 3’s article, with more and different
dating questions.
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Fierce, Be Fine, Better You…WhyKnot?!
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