Eggs Aren’t Cheap You
Know?! Part 3
Let’s look at another prospective of dating:
*What do you think of
the theory of not dating, but allowing God to tell you who you will marry? Is
there scripture to support that?
I do not know of
scripture that supports that. I guess they could look at Adam and Eve or Ruth
and Broas, but Ruth was chosen because of her work. For example, she went in
his room and laid at his feet (okay do not take this out of context, sneak into
someone’s house and lay at their feet…your going to jail). Ruth and Broas
didn’t just up and get married (to read Ruth’s situation refer to Ruth 2-4
Chapters).
If a person just
showed up, how would that work? You don’t just pick someone. If the Holy Ghost
told one person why wouldn’t He tell the other? God said it’s not good for man
to be alone. With dating then a relationship, you find out a persons back
ground, you see them at their best, and worst. Churches should talk about sex
and relationships more (side note: that is actually another article I’m working
on). I also do not believe in the theory of there being one person for someone
else. What if that person dies? I’m sure God wouldn’t want me to be alone. I
believe it’s a parade, God shows and brings people through your path way and
you choose.
Female, 26, Married
I wouldn’t do it
(date multiple guys at once). Why; I believe dating has purpose and if I’m dating
multiple people I’m not fulfilling that purpose. What is the purpose? The purpose is to find your potential spouse.
If I’m dating multiple guys I may start comparing and I could miss out on the
right person. Secondly, people could get hurt.
If I was dating
and he was dating other women, I would want him to tell me. By him telling me,
it would help me protect my emotions because there is a chance that we may not
end up together.
I do not believe
in dating just because (this is referring to going out with just anyone not
because you actually like them or see potential). For my husband and I’s case,
The Lord spoke to him about dating and he felt since God wanted him to date He
must have had someone in mind. The Lord put me on his heart so he prayed for
about 9 months before asking me to date. I didn’t hear that from God so I just
stepped out into the courtship and over time I believed he was my husband.
Do you believe we have
choices or there are specific people we are meant to be with?
Both, I believe
God makes the perfect mate. For example, I believe my husband is the perfect
will of God for me. If for some reason my now husband would have gotten on the
wrong track from God’s Will, God gives back up plans. Look at Adam. He was
created to not sin, but live in this world. He sinned, the back up plan was
Jesus (refer to Genesis in The Bible for Adam’s situation and any of the four
gospels Matthew, Mark, Luke, John for Jesus’s).
As far as any
Christians who do not believe in dating at all they just get married, do you
know of scriptures to support this?
No….if you find a scripture please let me know.
Male, 30, single
I think it’s normal to date multiple people. I wouldn’t want
to know if she was dating multiple people, but I would respect her if she told
me. Honestly though, she wouldn’t have to tell me because we do not have any
titles. *This was his over all answer…short and sweet.
Summary:
So there you have
it. Over all from what I gather, it seems that the majority of the people I
asked are fine with dating more than one person (not just to be dating and
getting a free meal or buying one), but to see what potential is out there. I’m
not trying to solve all of the questions of dating in one small article, but I
at least wanted to spark interest and see how some people view something that
we as people do over all so frequently. We are living in a time where divorce
seems to be almost a norm, some people are bitter over past relationships, and
some people think marriage is a joke. What about dating? If we date wiser,
maybe we can have better marriages and less baggage to carry into future
relationships. You may see yourself in
one of the people I interviewed or not. No one is asking you to model yourself
after one of those interviewed, but I at least wanted to provide a few
prospective to hopefully help myself and others understand dating a little bit
better. There is always room to grow.
Be
Fierce, Be Fine, Better You…WhyKnot?!
V. Curls
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