To Wig or Not to Wig?

     Its getting cold and of course a lot of naturals and non natural women are probably going to wear a protective style (nothing wrong with that right)? The date was October  22,2011 when my father said something along the lines of..."give me that hat and that wig so I can throw it away." So I was and wasn't surprised by his comment. A.) My father is a loving yet a "tell it like it is," kind of guy (you have to learn not  to live with your emotions on your sleeve with him). B.) I know for a FACT he didn't like my hair when I first went natural (yep one of those men who liked long relaxed hair), so what had changed?

     His next comment is what had me thinking the most, he stated  "If your going to be natural you need to wear and maintain your hair." "Your inviting people to a natural hair event and wearing a wig." Wait....my phone is ringing....my pride called to say it went just sky diving. It was hard to believe this was the same man who had to paint a smile on his face when he first saw me with natural hair about 2 years  and some months ago? What could I say....he was right.

     It was funny he made that comment,  so instead of getting offended, I took it as a confirmation. I wasn't wearing the wig due to being a shamed of my hair, but simply because I felt I didn't have time to "style," my hair and attend a concert I wanted to attend that night. In his defense, I know my hair more by now, I have to make time to style it if I'm going to have it and promote the beauty in having it.

     So is it wrong to rock a wig, weave, yaki pony tail, hat or whatever? Of course not in my opinion. Just because a person is wearing fake hair doesn't mean they are a shamed or trying to be someone else. Sometimes it (wearing a wig and such) is for protecting the natural hair or just wanting to switch up your look. However, I will say before, when , and during the addition of hair tagging along or a hat....ask yourself why? If you know your motives are on point okay then and even if your having a day where you do not feel like doing your hair...thats you, but understand that with natural hair for some reason... more than relaxed it seems, wearing a weave and/or flat ironing your hair may be considered "wrong," by those who are already un sure of the point in going natural in the first place.

     It reminds me of the verses in the Bible that says eating meat isn't wrong, but if its going to offend your brother don't eat it in front of him ( 1Corin.10:25-33 ) maybe not that deep in this situation, but I get how those who aren't sure why someone would go natural in the first place could be confused to see a "proud natural," in a wig. Long story longer...not short. If your going to wear something to cover your natural hair sometimes, be ready to possibly get some weird looks or comments (that are sometimes right and wrong). Be willing to teach about why you can do that if you choose  to and be open to correction...not quick to get offended. Will I ever wear a wig, weave, or whatever again...probably lol, but I'll try to check my motives and atmosphere at the door. Hopefully,  whomever that person is you may have to talk with has enough sense not to bust you out in front of people with immature comments, if they do, try to keep your pride in a cage and starve it with nice thoughts/ words :)

p.s.  My father has grown to like my hair now (which is good be/c it wasn't changing) and even uses my hair products to keep his hair conditioned (I love those parents of mine).


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